Deepen Bond With Fiancé using this Powerful Dance Therapy Exercise
Wedding planning, Covid changes, anxious thoughts, self-sabotaging behaviors, and lots of stress might be taking over your relationship, making it nearly impossible to actually spend quality time with your fiancé. If you’re reading this you may be yearning to shift out of overwhelm and into being present with your boo. But let’s be real, that sh*t is hard, specially if you’re feeling like you’re stuck in your head. I’m excited to share with you a unique way to bond that will increase intimacy, trust, and empathy toward each other. Don’t worry its not just talking, you get to MOVE together!
Mirroring
Mirroring is a skill that dance/movement psychotherapists use often to channel empathy. We reflect back to those we work with their movement and/or temperament by using our body and tone of voice, which allows us to meet our clients where they are. Mirror neurons help us connect to others and embody kinesthetic empathy, resulting in those we work with feeling seen and understood. These are skills that you can apply to help deepen your understanding of your partner, strengthen your bond and create a shared experience truly seeing each other and feeling seen.
Let’s Get Moving
I invite you to set aside some quality time with your soon-to-be spouse, away from wedding planning & explore mirroring each other. You can choose to do this activity with or without music. I recommend making eye contact throughout your exploration.
Begin trying on each other’s movement as if you were a mirror, reflecting back your partner’s moves. You may go in and out of leading and following naturally (no need to plan or assign roles here). I suggest starting off by facing each other and explore moving your hands in synchrony, reflecting back to one another your movement. Keep in mind, to only move in ways that feel good for you.
You can continue moving as you like and see where the moves take you! Be sure to be open and compassionate with yourself and your fiancé as this may be a new experience and different emotions can come up. When you are done, if you like, you can share your experiences with one another, how you felt, what sensations came up for you in your body or what your favorite part was. Let me know if you try this!
